The Relationships 25-point check list.

You have more natural energy when you are clear with your environment, health and emotional balance, money and relationships.

This fresh start checklist will help you identify and concentrate on the key relationship areas that need attention. Completing the checklist will give you strength, vitality and high self-esteem.

The checklist is designed to be completed in a time frame of between 6 months to 1 year.

(This list owes much to the booklet 'Becoming a coach, the coach you method'. Thomas J Leonard although I have updated and changed where appropriate)

Here’s Your Checklist.

I have told my parents, in the last three months, that I love them or I have found a genuine way with assistance if required to find peace with my relationship with them. I do wish, or suffer, or feel unresolved regarding my parents.

I get along well with my sibling(s) or as above found my peace.

I get along well with my co-workers / clients.

I get along well with my manager / staff.

There is no one who I would dread or feel uncomfortable 'running across' (in the street, at an airport or party)

I put people first and results second.

I have let go of relationships that drag me down or damage me. (Let go means to end, walk away from, no longer be attached to.) I choose and engage in relationships that inspire me, make me feel good and have warmth and care.

I have communicated or attempted to communicate with everyone who I have damaged, injured or seriously disturbed, even if it wasn't my fault and made peace.

I do not gossip or talk about others. I am able to control my tongue and I look to say the best or nothing at all.

I have a circle of friends/family who love and appreciate me for who I am, more than just want me for what I do for them.

I tell people how they can satisfy me and fulfill me needs.

I am fully caught up with letter, e-mails and calls.

I am always honest with myself, I take the time to work through what I feel is the best behaviour, response and action before I take it.

I receive enough love from people around me to feel good and I love and develop the relationship I have with myself.

I have fully forgiven those people who have hurt/damaged me, deliberate or not.

I am a person of his/her word; people can count on me. I love this about me.

I quickly clear miscommunications and misunderstandings when they do occur.

I live life on my terms, not by the rules or preferences of others.

There is nothing unresolved with past loves or spouses.

I am in tune with my wants and needs and get them taken care of.

I own my self worth and I develop my self-esteem through my actions and relationship to my self.

I do not take personally the things that people say to me. I have developed the maturity and self-knowledge to know what is accurate about myself and what is not.

I have a best friend or soul mate. I care about the people close to me but not for them.

I state my requirements rather than complain.

I spend time with people who don't try to change me.

The number of checked items on your list should be no more than 25…so take a 'fresh start' to your finances and get this list somewhere you can refer to it everyday. It won’t take long for you, and those that know you, to start to see and feel the changes.

posted 2010 Jun 30 by Alistair Horscroft