I though I would spend a few lines talking about Instant Success, the myths and the reality. It’s an important area to understand as many of the major factors that prevent positive change from happening quickly (even in an instant) be that physically, emotionally, financially are what many people struggle with the most.

So lets crack this once and for all so that you can realise that instant success can indeed be your reality but not right now… now there’s a paradox for you to enjoy for a few more minutes. I want you to imagine that your life is like a house and the rooms in the house represent your optimal experiences of areas in your life such as money, relationships, health and so on.

The only thing that is preventing you from getting into these rooms is a bloody great big barrel of water that sits directly in the doorway of each room. Now the only way into the room is by your own actions – through moving the barrel. You only have your hands to do so and the only thing that you can do with the barrel is take the lid on and off. So what are you going to do? Obviously shouting and screaming at it are not going to move it; nor will wishing the barrel wasn’t there, because at this moment it simply is…that’s the current reality. Perhaps you can run at it and try and move it, but you soon find using physical force will not budge it and inch.

As you may have already realised the only way to move this barrel is to open up the lid and begin to splash the water out – do this for long enough and the barrel will become light enough to move. Once this has happened you will be able to push the barrel out of the way and move in and out of the room at ease, with no resistance whenever you want. So this is the way it is with instant Success.

It is possible but first you have to put the work in to get to the point of being able to achieve it…and the work is letting go of any emotional resistance/baggage (the water in the barrel, if you hadn’t got there already) that prevents you from doing it.

Once there is a clear doorway into the room nothing is stopping you from having what you want whenever you want it: ‘instant success’ as it where. Anyone who has been working in the field of human potential, therapy, coaching and other related disciplines for any period comes to realise that it is the feelings/emotions of the individual that are the main reason for either success or failure in the given area. And this includes physical health, financial abundance, satisfying relationships etc.

People who concentrate on thoughts only as a way of instigating change have a long, tiresome and frustrating uphill battle ahead of them. It’s not that we don’t need to have positive thoughts; it’s just that this simple ability is nearly impossible to get an significant results if the emotional disposition is negative. Take care of the emotions and thoughts change to the positive remarkably quickly.

For those that are interested, this is why therapeutic approaches such as cognitive behavioural therapy and the like are not as successful as they could be…too much time spent on re-training thoughts rather than releasing emotions. Due to peoples lack of ability to let go of or release emotions that they have accumulated over the years they become like the barrel of water. Full of blocked emotional energy and stuck between where they are now and where they want to be.

Lets look a little deeper. In life there are 4 ways that people deal with emotions:

1. The first is to suppress them, to burry them so deep that the person simply denies that they are there.

2. The second is to avoid them, you recognise that they are there but avoid them at all costs, by sleeping in, eating too much, drink and drugs, T.V, entertainment highs and so on.

3. The third is to express them. This is what most therapists are into in. You just find someone and talk about your feelings, whether it is to your family, friends, a therapist, a stranger – who knows. This is also for the most part totally ineffective.

It’s OK once or twice to talk to someone, perhaps to realise that you are not the only one who has problems, but beyond that people who always want to express their emotions are either playing the ‘poor me’ card or trying to justify their feelings to themselves and others.

4. The 4th way and the only truly effective way of dealing with emotions is to simply let them go…to release them (splashing water out of the barrel). How long this takes depends on your capacity for self honesty, the techniques you use and the degree that you value what you want over the drama of emotionally laden stories, thoughts, wants and beliefs that are in opposition to what you want.

When you change the emphasis of your personal, physical, spiritual, financial, relationship and work to develop from changing thoughts to ‘letting go’ of emotions you will experience rapid movement towards your outcome.

posted 2010 Apr 25 by Alistair Horscroft